Take a moment and think back to the time somebody was rude or cruel to you. Sadly, that may have happened just a moment ago, yesterday or last week. Aggressiveness in driving, short tempers on the telephone and adolescent-type behavior can come at you at anytime. It’s still not pleasant, fair or justified; but knowing it’s less about you and more about the other person can help you to let go and move on.
Many years ago I was at a holiday party and noticed the wife of one of the co-owners standing alone. I went up and started a conversation with her. Not many people would ever dream this drop-dead gorgeous woman would have difficulty at a party, but in reality she did. Some people may have taken what appeared as aloofness and just left her alone. What I discovered was she was shy.
I know there’s an old adage that you can’t remake first impressions. I get that. But, what about considering going one step further. If we reach out in conversation we may discover that the person is just shy, not aloof or conceited.